THE JOURNEY-Lesson of the Valley

Today is 12/12/12.  For a number of reasons, people will find themselves stopping for a moment to process this fact.  It is a one time occurrence and has significance in many areas.  For me this day represents the fact that I have survived two years of the grieving process of losing the first man I ever loved, my Daddy.  Yesterday was the two year anniversary of the transitioning of the late Apostle James F. Greene.  Today, as unbelievable as it is to many, including myself, I am smiling and rejoicing his transition.  I know this may sound weird but over these past few weeks, days, hours and moments, I have grab firmly to the concept that his life and legacy was incomparable.  His very presence changed the atmosphere in a room and when he spoke, oh my God, the wisdom he possessed was truly amazing.

Today I celebrate and hold close to my heart the privilege of being his daughter.  Many have reminded me of how blessed I was to have this man in my life all of these years and to have his bloodline and spiritual mantle in and around me.  As I reflect on this past year, I see with fresh eyes the depth of the valley experience tied to his leaving.  I recognize and acknowledge the pain, hurt and devastation of the loss.  I do not and never will minimize the depth of that loss and the void it leaves in my life.  Yet, from THIS place on my Journey, I can acknowledge the pain without surrendering my power over to it.

Valley experiences are a part of our Journey.  There have been and there will be stages where we feel down, uncertain and maybe even a little lost.  However, what I have learned is that these Valley experiences are not to be avoided and unwanted because they too have valuable lessons to teach us.

In the Valley, I have learned that I possess strength that I had not tapped into before.  In the Valley I learned that I am abundantly loved and uniquely special.  I learned that even when I can’t “see” it, my help is right there with me.  I have learned that I am NOT alone nor am I forsaken.  I have learned that my story is a gift and I MUST share it with confidence.  I have learned that others will be lifted out of THEIR valleys as they watch how I come out of mine.  I have learned that being real and honest is not a sign of weakness, but rather an expression of strength.  I have learned that while my Dad was my greatest “resource” he was always pointing me to my “source”, my HEAVENLY Father.  I have learned that there is only ONE ME and NO ONE else can be me but me!

In my opinion, the greatest lesson of the valley is to gain an appreciation for the mountaintop.  After you have gone through the dryness of the valley, you genuinely appreciate the water on the mountaintop.  When you have endured the barrenness of the valley, you marvel at the fruit you produce once you reach the mountaintop.  When you walk alone through the valley season, you truly appreciate the love and fellowship that you find at the mountaintop.

I admonish you, my friend, to appreciate your valley.  Don’t be so anxious to hurry out of it, because you may miss an important lesson.  As we are moving forward to our NEXT, let’s take a moment to reflect on what we have learned.  Let’s look at how we have grown and developed.  Let’s make sure that we have learned what the Father has designed the valley to teach us and then…………………………………………………Let’s Go to the Mountaintop!

Peace and Blessings to you and yours!  I am Loving you to LIFE!




At the beginning of 2012 I was in a place of “nothingness” most of the time.  I often felt nothing; heard nothing; saw nothing and did nothing.  Still walking through the grieving process, I just couldn’t see my NEXT standing or lying where I was.  Since then I have found my legs and my voice again!  Earlier in the year I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish for THIS year and I find that I have completed several of them and I am actively pursuing others.

Some of my greatest inspirations have come from my “roots” and my “future”, meaning my parents and my children and grandchildren.  Other inspirations have come from the powerful “divine connections” I have made this year.  Individuals who have crossed my path and imparted additional strength to me for My Journey.  At moments when I felt like just sitting down and quitting, many “genuine” friends have said to me, “I will carry you until you can walk again.”  I have been blessed to connect with those who do not judge and criticize me, but uphold and guide me.  Even when I get off track, they “gently” nudge me back onto the right path through their love and support.

I see and hear a lot of people asking others, “what are you thankful for this year?”  My initial response was, I don’t even want to go there.  From childhood until their deaths, my parents ALWAYS insisted that we “as a family” be together on these Holidays and pray for healing of any differences which occurred over the past year and move forward.  Then we had to, one by one, name one thing for which we were thankful.  NOBODY was exempt (smile).  I still haven’t accepted that they are no longer going to be sitting at the table and reminding us of just how blessed we are.  I still haven’t accepted that we won’t be running around at the last minute buying gifts for them and for every person in leadership at the church they founded and pastored for over 40 years.  At times like this, things just seem off, because the routine has been altered.

With all of this said, I want to say “THANK YOU” to each and everyone of you who have come, stayed or walked away from my life this year.  EACH of you has played a role in my progress and I truly thank you.  If you just entered my life, you serve to provide a fresh wind.  If you have remained, you serve to provide a reminder of how far I have traveled and how much I have overcome.  If you walked away, you serve to provide the release of some unnecessary baggage and weight.  Thereby allowing me to be “Free to Be Me.”

To those of you who are dealing with pain and loss at this time, I pray for you.  I pray that you too have people in your life who will carry you, when you cannot walk.  People who will be your voice when you cannot talk.  People who will fill your voids when you feel so empty.  Stand strong my friends.  It’s not as bad as it has been and it WILL get better.


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The Journey is continual.  It is about constant movement that propels you forward and manifest in your growth and development.  Each of us travel at different speeds, but we must all travel with a distinct purpose.  I have learned that in those moments when I lose sight of my purpose, my Journey stalls.  When the “static” of my surroundings forces me to become distraught and discombobulated, then my Journey becomes stressful and overwhelming.

In my previous post, I expressed to you my emotional struggle this time of year mainly due to the deaths of my loved ones.  In addition, I am concerned about and for my children and grandchildren and the life that I desire for them to have.  Yet, even in my most distressing moments, I find that the inner strength that I possess, will not allow me to give up.  My Journey has a predestined end and knowing this keeps me going even when I don’t feel like it.

To add to my personal losses, one of my nieces transitioned within the last week.  She was a young woman whose faith and belief in God and His Word was truly amazing.  This week, I have seen and heard so much from so many about her life and how she so greatly impacted them.  I hear about how she refused to give up or give in to any negativity around her.  So I say to those who knew and loved Joy Lynne Mifflin, that the best way you can honor her is to practice what she preached, just as she did.  Let your actions line up with your words and your purpose with your proclamations.  Remembering this, your life will speak for you even after YOU no longer can.

Be encouraged and strengthened my friends and family.  For as long as you have breath, you have hope and your have purpose. Every word you speak and every step you take on your Journey, impacts someone else.  And that’s a fact we cannot negate.  We still have some days left in this year so let’s FINISH STRONG.  The race (prize) isn’t rewarded to the swift (fastest) but it will be given to the one that endures (finishes).  Let’s Go!



A successful journey is not determined nor defined merely by the “works” that you do.  Your “works” can be saved for eternity and “you” be lost.  It is important that our works are in alignment with our spirit and our assignment.  One of the many lessons I am learning is that it is important not to be “working” and doing so much that you overlook the purpose and blessing in your work.  If you are writing books, conducting seminars, speaking at Conferences, pastoring a church, mothering children, or volunteering in your community and you feel no sense of purpose with it, then you are just merely “performing duties”.  If the words you speak and the deeds you do, do not bring forth change and growth in you and others, than you are just wearing yourself out.  I encourage you to take a moment to stop “doing” and just “BE”.  Be still.  Be calmed.  Be at peace.  Be focused.  Be loving.  Be loved.  From THIS place on your journey, you can now continue forward refreshed and renewed.  You can continue forward with a new and enlightened sense of purpose as you fulfill your divine destiny.  Peace & Blessings to YOU! ~ THELEGACYCONTINUES


Life is a journey.  It consists of twist and turns, ups and down, hills and valleys, obstacles and opportunities.  Each of us has a unique Journey and no one can travel it for us.  Yes, there will be those who will walk with you during specific phases, but at the end, IT’S YOUR JOURNEY.  I encourage you to embrace the Journey, rather than shun it.  Each phase and season of the Journey comes with its own lessons and blessings.  It is imperative that we EXPERIENCE each step as opposed to just “walking” each step.  Take a moment and just “live in it.”  Even the valleys are destined to bless you.  Come on ~ LET’S WALK IT OUT